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My A,B,C’s to a Merrier Christmas

My A,B,C’s to a Merrier Christmas

Angels –  The first messengers of Jesus’ birth.  They heralded the good news for all mankind – and they sang loud and clear.

Baking –  I enjoy making, sharing  and eating Christmas cookies. It’s fun receiving them too!

Cleaning – is not optional but you can focus on the main living areas if you don’t have company coming. Nobody is going to look in your closets or under the bed  (except the kids).

Deck the HallsThe 3 main areas you should decorate if you don’t have time or the money are the tree, the Door and the Mantle or table. (however I tend to deck the whole downstairs)

Enjoy – What is the point if you run yourself ragged and don’t enjoy the celebration?  Savor the memories!  Remember Emmanuel means “God with us.”

Food & Fa-la-la  Every holiday in America seems to include food. Make the favorites and forget the experiments. If you have a big gang coming – use paper and forget the china!!!

GiftsSanta promises a gift if you are good, NOT that you will get everything you ever dreamed of.  Being thoughtful and creative is best. Shorten your lists if need be or have a “Yankee Swap”.

Humor – Try not to be so uptight. Laugh at yourself and the foibles around you. It is really OK – no one will remember if the cake fell or your furnace died.  (I know because the oil man had to fix ours one Christmas and the kids paid no attention to that nice man!)

Invitation- you may get many invitations during the holidays but you do not have to say yes to them all. Most of us already have extra concerts, programs and family obligations on the calendar. Do not over extend yourself or your family – it only makes everyone grumpy.

JESUS He is THE reason for the season. Read the Christmas story to your family. Set up a manger that the children can touch. Have a birthday cake for Jesus.

KingListen to the Hallelujah chorus –“King of kings and Lord of lords!”  It will lift your spirits!

Lights –  There are many beautiful light displays to enjoy.  The bright lights make the gloomy short days of December so much better and remind us that Jesus is the Light of the World.

Music – Listen to music in your home and car. Sing along! Sing with your children. I can’t imagine Christmas without singing carols.

Noel – means Christmas. It comes from an old Latin word meaning “to be born.”

Open – your hearts to the One who loves you most. Open your home and open your arms for hugging.

Peace – Shalom means wholeness, wellness and inner peace. Jesus is the Prince of Peace.

Quiet Time – Play games, do puzzles, have some old fashioned fun!

Rest  God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen. Treat yourself to cat naps whenever possible. When we get over tired we lose our cheer and sanity.

Shepherds – were outcasts in their day – dirty and ceremonially unclean.  But God came down at Christmas for even the “least of these.”  Sharing with those who are needy is good for our soul and teaches our children to be grateful.

Tree – is more than a decoration to Christians. The tree is a symbol of everlasting life with God. It can also serve as a reminder of the Tree in the Garden of Eden and the tree (cross) Jesus died on.

Unplug shut the news off! Very little on TV is uplifting.  Limit your own time on electronic devices as well as your children. Sometimes the constant input can crank you up instead of calm you down.

Vintage I sometimes get miffed that toys I played with are now called “Vintage”. Sharing your stories and traditions with each other brings happy memories and laughter. Looking at old photos is also a wonderful way to remember those we loved who are not with us anymore.

Wisemen – The wisemen came from afar with costly gifts seeking the  prophesied infant King. Wisemen and women still seek Him.

Xmass is not offensive to me. The X represents the Greek letter chi, the initial letter in the word Xpiotoc (Christos)

Yuletide – the Christmas season  (remember it is only a season!)

Zzzzz it’s time to take that nap I mentioned.  Have a blessed, not stressed, Christmas season everyone!

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Soul Care for the Holidays

Soul Care for the Holidays

The Holiday season can be stressful and exhausting!  It does not need to be that way! First we need to realize it is only a season!  Approximately 6 weeks of non-stop advertising and extra to-do’s added to the calendar. Everyday we have choices and can control the chaos to enjoy Thanksgiving and Christmas.

The bottom line to enjoying the holiday season is an attitude of being grateful instead of greedy . We as well as our children get caught in the trap of consumerism. We DON’T have to match up to Martha Stewart – the queen of everything practically perfect…. Or have a Magnolia house. First of all we don’t have their staff! And TV is not real life.

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What are the most important traditions for you and your family?  Put those at the top of the list!  Carefully consider other events before saying yes.  Don’t try to do it all or you won’t enjoy anything yourself. If Mommy (or Daddy) isn’t happy then nobody is happy!

Have limits and lower expectations that everything will be Hallmark perfect. If you have  small children and especially if you have children with special needs ,you may have to say no to too many extra activities.  Don’t feel guilty. No time to bake? Buy cookies. Limit the visiting hours and try to maintain a regular bedtime. One year we just couldn’t get our family Christmas letter done and didn’t send any cards. Nobody died because of it.

If this is a particularly stressful or financially tight year for you then only decorate the Tree, The Mantle or table and the front door. The tree represents – eternal life and Jesus the Light of the world.  The Mantle or table decoration is right in view for you while the front door is what others see and where you enter and exit everyday.

Plan and limit your shopping. It is too stressful to push through the crowds of people to”find the perfect gift”. I have been so happy with online shopping. Truly watch your spending and set limits there too. Getting into debt over gifts is not a satisfying feeling afterwards.

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Stop and take a deep breath – seriously. Breathing helps clear our minds, calm our racing thoughts and lower blood pressure. Think about it for a minute– do you hold your breath when upset???

Make sleep a PRIORITY –  Take cat naps if necessary – I am finding a great benefit to it. Have a coffee or tea and take a 5 minute power nap – it really will refresh you!

I love the idea of  “no politics” at the table. Sharing funny stories or remembrances is a much better way to enjoy and connect even with difficult relatives. Take a walk, play a board game or watch a classic movie together instead.

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Take advantage of FREE things. Driving around the neighborhood to view different lights and displays is fun!  Enjoy a local holiday parade (or Macy’s on TV).  Play music: slow to relax or fast to pump you up to finish a task. Music is an international language that directly speaks to the soul!

Most important DO NOT neglect your time with God!  Read a Christmas devotional or one Chapter of Luke each day for the month. Read the real story of  Thanksgiving. Learning about their first winter and harvest meal will make you grateful! Christmas is about celebrating Jesus’ birthday and why He came.  Don’t focus on the chaos and big to do list. Ask God to help you count blessings and not focus on difficulties. He will fill your heart with peace, wonder and the joy of the season.

 

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God Rest You Merry, Gentlemen

God rest you merry, gentlemen, Let nothing you dismay

Remember Christ our Savior was born on Christmas Day

To save us all from Satan’s power, when we have gone astray

O tidings of comfort and joy – O tidings of comfort and joy!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My “What-Ifs” Went Over the Bridge

My “What-Ifs” Went Over the Bridge

Traveling over the Tappen-Zee bridge I symbolically threw all my “what-ifs” over the railing. That was a long time ago but I still remember it vividly. There comes a time in all of our lives when we need to deal with the things we hold on to that never happened.  Past plans, dreams or maybe lost opportunities can resurface in our minds and cause discontentment in our heart.

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We were heading south to visit some dear friends. Paul was driving and our young children were buckled in the back with kids music playing on the radio. We traveled Rte. 95 with all of its twists and turns.  As we went through Bridgeport I saw two of the hospitals where I interviewed as a graduate nurse….but I was never meant to work there.  A twinge in my heart wondered, “what if” I had worked in the Cardiac unit I was hired for? “What if” we had moved to Connecticut? “What if”???

For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.         Jer 29:11 (NLT)

My life took a very different path.  I had major surgery right after graduation that took awhile to heal and my now husband had changed jobs to one in Boston.  I ended up training for the Operating room in MA, a career  I have loved for over 34 years.  We bought a nice home and met awesome people at church who are now life-long friends. We were much closer for our children to be loved and spoiled by their grandparents.  Life was different from my simple “what ifs”  but in a good way!

Is it wrong to think back and wonder? Not really. But for me they created a little wedge of discontentment, a feeling that I had missed out on something. It was wrong thinking because I haven’t missed anything – I have enjoyed all that God did have in store for me and my family!

As we passed over the bridge I silently prayed,  “God take all my “what-ifs” because You call me to live in the present and not hold on to the past. Your plan is better than I could ever imagine. Don’t let me feel any regrets or false yearning but contentment instead.” And over the bridge they went.

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.         Phil 4:8 (NLT)

Seeds of discontent and comparison should have no room in my heart. Instead I will make the choice to count my blessings. I will choose gratitude and praise towards God for His faithfulness and provision for all of my needs. Satan still uses the same old tactics he used in the Garden when he told Eve that God was withholding something good.  So the next time he whispers in my ear, I’ll tell him to jump off the bridge.

 

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Friendships Change

Friendships Change

Listening on the phone to my oldest friend talk on and on about her life I was getting annoyed. I could hardly break in to share about my family or what I was doing.  We were friends since Middle school and called “double trouble” by my parents since we shared the same first name – Nancy.

After high school our lives radically changed, I went to college and after one year in 2Nancy's 001college she enrolled in the Navy.  She eloped, had two children and was even deployed before I started my family and career. She served as my Matron of Honor and we stayed in touch through the years. But Nancy died before her 50th birthday from a heart attack and now I miss those unexpected calls.

My Mother told me that sometimes friends are only for a season and others, though few, last a lifetime. Change of location, education level, marriage or divorce and health issues are among the things that can separate people. What’s the difference between a friend and an acquaintance?  Shared experiences, longevity and the depth of the relationship make a strong friendship. Co-workers can be friendly but most often those relationships are left “at the office”. We don’t share a deep knowledge of our personal life or familiarity with someone who’s an acquaintance.

Did you know that we were created to have relationships? There is great truth in the old saying, “No man is an island”.  Good friendships bring richness to our lives, laughter and feelings of well-being as well as comfort, advice and support.  God Himself created us to be in relationship with Him.

The Fall

Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say……?    Gen 3:1 (ESV)      And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” Gen 3:8-9

People often question, “Where is God?” yet it is often our choices that separate us from His presence. From the very beginning God has been looking and waiting for us to come to Him.  Jesus stepped out of eternity to become human. He had family and friends. Jesus attended feasts, funerals and weddings. Trained as a carpenter He knew about a hard day’s work.  He was loved and betrayed – Jesus understands all of our joy and pain.Jesusbench

He calls us.

 Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Matt 11:28 (NLT)

He loves us

 “For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life     John 3:16 (NLT)

He will never fail us

For God has said, “I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.” Heb 13:5 (NLT)

Jesus is the best friend you could ever have.  He knows all about us yet loves us anyway.  He took our place on the cross to satisfy our debt with a Holy God. He is faithful even when we are not. Our lives and circumstances change but He will never change.  This is the greatest relationship you could ever have!

 

Lord, thank you for great love – even when I didn’t care. Please forgive me for all my wrong doings. I need your Presence and your guidance everyday so please come into my life and change me.  Amen

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Please let me know if this blog has touched your heart…especially if you have made a decision to have a closer personal relationship with God.

 

 

 

 

Changing Seasons Ahead

Changing Seasons Ahead

Leaf “peepers” come from all over the country to view the fabulous array of color in New England every fall.   “Look at the leaves”, “Oh, aren’t the leaves pretty”, the speaker said with a grin.  “Friends, what is so great about fall? I’m afraid to tell you everything is dying!”  Everyone replied with a groan.  IMG_6478

Autumn is such a wonderful time of year and yet it is an annual swan song.  While we are enjoying the harvest we are also preparing for winter.  Shorter and colder days require a change of clothing and preparation for the months ahead.  We also need to be prepared for changing days ahead – life is not static. It would be boring if it were!

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.   Eccl 3:1 (ESV)

Besides changing the calendar, what is changing in your life?  Are you in a new season of life?  Maybe you have a new career, new home or new status? You may be in a good or very difficult season of life. We can trust in our loving and faithful God to lead and guide us through every change and challenge we face.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.6 Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.          Prov 3:5-6 (NLT)

I am in the midst of change.  Our daughter is married, our parents are all gone, I retired (my husband plans to keep working – yay)  and I have health issues that sometimes slow me down.  However, it has been confirmed that He isn’t done with me yet.

Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?                                        Isaiah 43:19 (ESV)

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There is more time for my  ministry of speaking and writing.  I need to be a little more flexible and a lot more tuned in to hear His voice by not being so “busy”and that is not so easy for me. Change happens whether we are ready or not! And so you see dear readers that my new blog is not completely ready to go live.  Please stand by because He’s still working on me!

Tagbah – To Walk Where Jesus Walked -part 6

Tagbah – To Walk Where Jesus Walked -part 6

Our trip to Israel was so amazing that I am still processing all we saw, learned and did.  A place called Tagbah is still the most meaningful for me.

Tagbah sits on the north-western shore of the Sea of Galilee at the foot of the Mount of the Beatitudes.  This was a favorite fishing spot for the men from nearby Capernaum.  There are several warm springs that enter the Lake here that attract numerous fish especially in winter.

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There were two churches built at Tagbah; one that comemmorates Jesus feeding the 5000 – The Church of the Multiplication of the Loaves and Fishes. This is built over a 4th century church where Byzantine tile work can still been on the floor under the altar. The second church  – The Church of Peter’s Primacy – is where Jesus made His third post-resurection appearance to the disciples.  Jesus had been crucified. All of the disciples hopes and dreams seemed gone so the men went back to what they knew best – fishing.

3 Simon Peter said, “I’m going fishing.” “We’ll come, too,” they all said. So they went out IMG_2092in the boat, but they caught nothing all night.4 At dawn Jesus was standing on the beach, but the disciples couldn’t see who he was.5 He called out, “Fellows, have you caught any fish?” “No,” they replied.6 Then he said, “Throw out your net on the right-hand side of the boat, and you’ll get some!” So they did, and they couldn’t haul in the net because there were so many fish in it.7 Then the disciple Jesus loved said to Peter, “It’s the Lord!” When Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put on his tunic (for he had stripped for work), jumped into the water, and headed to shore…….8  When they got there, they found breakfast waiting for them—fish cooking over a charcoal fire, and some bread. ….15 After breakfast Jesus asked Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these? ” “Yes, Lord,” Peter replied, “you know I love you.” “Then feed my lambs,” Jesus told him.16 Jesus repeated the question: “Simon son of John, do you love me?” “Yes, Lord,” Peter said, “you know I love you.” “Then take care of my sheep,” Jesus said.17 A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.          John 21:1-17 (NLT)

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This church sits by the shore and the rock incorporated into its floor is believed to be the place Jesus served breakfast.  A communion table is set in a small garden nearby.  We stood on the shore listening to these scriptures and we were challenged to think of Peter’s restoration and what God may be saying to our own hearts. Three times Peter denied Jesus and three times he was asked, “Do you love ME?” – with the command to “feed MY sheep”.

Peter, the first called, the one to always speak up, the one to jump ahead, one of the three closest friends of Jesus, had really blown it. In fear he had denied our Lord not once but three times.  Jesus lovingly confronts and forgives him then restores and renews Peter’s mission. Friend, it does not matter where you come from or what you have done in the past. Jesus will confront us with our failures or selfishness so we can repent. There is nothing too big or bad that He cannot forgive. He loves you and has an incredible plan for your life. Search your heart and see if there is anything in the way of your relationship with Christ.  He’s still asking “do you love ME”?  then come follow Me……

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